Another year has elapsed since my last post (9 months anyway). I just noticed that “bereft” had left a comment. So I thought to make a brief entry to update the blog.
We are still very happy, the new house we built is complete, we moved in last summer and I left my job so that I would have time to finish up the details. We worked from August until mid January getting trim and details done. And on decorating (Joyce mostly) and that is nearly done, the remaining furniture will be delivered by next week at that point all the rooms will be furnished and we can reduce the amount of time we spend on decorating.
We have been through a number of family events in the 2 ½ years we have been married deaths, weddings, getting to know each others families, and more. We have managed to grow closer as we moved through them. One recent event was the death of my new wife’s mother’s elderly husband in NYC. We are now working to help my mother-in-law deal with the details and will end up with her moving to our area. (Not moving in with us, rather living near us in some sort of an senior, independent living facility). We are working through these issues together.
On the other side; my grand-daughter is going to college and she is nearer to us than to her folks. Joyce has helped her and befriended her. Not trying to be a new grand mother but rather being a friend but also a family member. It has built into a very good relationship.
I cite these only to illustrate that we have integrated out lives and to a very great extent our families such that we have constructed a marriage that seems more mature than I would have thought possible at this point. In my case after a bit of time I was able to develop a new relationship and form a new marriage, just a strong and yet very different from my first. Today I don’t recall my first wife with grief but rather as fond memory from the past. Much like we recall our childhood, good to remember but without a real desire to relive it.
Bottom line; we are happy together and we share our lives easily, through sad and difficult times and in happy times we remain happy and we continue to grow closer.
