A lot has happened since my recent posting.
We have been busy planning our vacation on Maui and then Thursday morning Deanna called. She was on her way to the ER with Scott and she thought he had appendicitis! It turned out she was right and in afternoon he had the appendix removed. Fortunately it hadn’t burst so the operation was not particularly troublesome. He is getting better and will spend a second night in the hospital, the Dr wants him to regain his appetite and to be sure that his bowels are working ok. Deanna says he is feeling better but still is unable to move to much without pain, however they have cut back on pain medication.
So he is going to be fine but he will not be able to make the Maui flight in the morning, Jake jumped in and rebooked Deanna and Scott for a Monday, evening flight and we have rescheduled some of our activities to accommodate Scott’s situation. He can’t snorkel, surf, parasail, bike, or do the zip-line, all of which were in his plans. He will get to enjoy the sights and weather at least.
Now for the downer part; all week I have been thinking how much Jo Lynn would have loved the idea that we are all going to Hawaii together. I doubt that it would have come together this year if she hadn’t died though. The stimulus came from Jake and Jill and grew out of our wanting to be together and to support ourselves through our grief. The irony is so clear but the sadness flows through me all the time. Then the minor Scott incident made we so aware that Jo Lynn is not here.
She would have dropped everything and gone to be with Scott and Deanna without even a thought. I on the other hand worked and kept in touch by phone all day. Deanna never said that she missed her mom but I imagine she did. She did very very well dealing with Scott and the problems but I am so sorry that she didn’t have Jo there to support her. She of course didn’t expect such support from me and I am not very good at it either. So we are ok but I know I miss seeing Jo share herself so willing with the kids and others. Remembering her makes me wish that I had some of the giving traits that she had. Wishing that I had them changes nothing, of course.
All the planning, worry, and stress at work have left me kind of blasted this evening. Rich and Marissa will note be here ‘til after midnight since Rich has to finish a car before they can leave and he lost a lot of time yesterday and today with Scott. I worry about them driving so late but mostly I was looking forward to being with them tonight. So I am lonesome,
Scott was here with me last weekend and I am glad his appendix didn’t flare up then. When Deanna came on Monday to pick him up we spent a nice day and went to grave to place some flowers. I’m not sure that was such a good idea; maybe that is what started me thinking so much about her, and missing her so much.
Well I am looking forward to having a good time and decompressing on vacation.
